'Brian' was arrested on suspicion of stabbing his partner in the neck.

Alan explains what an Independent Domestic Violence Advocate is and how he helped 'Brian' who had experienced domestic violence for three years.

 Click here  for the article and details of how to contact Alan.

 

"Fists and Chips"

a short radio drama by Keith Large starring Jeff Stewart and Carrie Hill

Click below to hear a short radio drama (11 minutes) that challenges stereotypes and highlights domestic violence against both men and women. It stars Jeff Stewart (PC Reg Hollis from The Bill) and Carrie Hill.  Our congratulations and thanks to Keith, Jeff and Carrie for this thought provoking drama.

Domestic violence against men

Domestic violence against men has been around for centuries but has largely been a hidden issue.  Call it domestic violence or call it domestic abuse - it isn't just women who are victims, there are abused men too.  Male victims of domestic violence are increasingly speaking out and looking for support but there are few support services for them, bias against them and little understanding of the issues they face.

The news section of this site has several examples of violent women and their male victims of domestic violence because these are dramatic stories that hit the news.  But emotional and psychological abuse are less obvious and don't make such good headlines unless they are cruel false allegations such as in The Daily Mail on 19 December 2011.

Abusive women are often able to use the bias of the Family Courts in favour of women to inflict emotional and financial abuse against men.  Mothers are often able to restrict contact and to alienate their children against their fathers.

UK Government statistics show that one in six men will be victims of domestic violence at some stage of their life. There are plenty of reasons to believe that the real numbers of men experiencing domestic violence are much higher. Why then are there so few resources available to male victims? Why is violence and abuse by women against their male partners minimised, excused and even blamed on men? This website sets out to answer these questions and to provide a resource for male victims and their friends and supporters.

Male victims of domestic abuse are the forgotten victims.

Domestic Violence as Bullying

Lets not beat about the bush.  In plain language domestic violence is bullying and both men and women can be bullies.  Bullying can be defined as a 'systematic abuse of power'.  Men tend to use more physical aggression and women tend to use more relational aggression.  Both can have a devastating effect on their victim.

DARVO

Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender

DAVRO is an acronym used by Dr Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD of the University of Oregon to describe the steps in victim blaming by offenders.  Women can be particulary adept at this and can often convincingly portray themselves as victims to the police and courts, sometimes using tears to help in the manipulation.

Read more about it on the Shrink4Men website

Why don't men report domestic violence?

Click here for the BBC One Show feature by Dominic Littlewood about domestic violence against men 

Visitors notice

DVmen.co.uk does not provide emergency help or support.  It provides information and resources to help better understand domestic violence by women and the experiences of male victims.

In an emergency you should dial 999 or contact your local Police Domestic Violence Officer.

If you need help or support for yourself or for a friend or relative consider contacting one of the helplines listed on this page.

New on website


Link to Keith's Blog - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse www.keithsstory.co.uk/

       

News

"Working with violent women" by Erin Pizzey

04/02/2013 15:34
www.avoiceformen.com 04-02-2013 

Jealous girlfriend stabbed 21-year-old lover to death in front of his younger brother and sister in row over him contacting an ex

01/02/2013 23:14
Daily Mail 01-02-2013 

X Factor hopeful who was booted off talent show after glassing her boyfriend escapes prison term

21/12/2012 06:35
Daily Mail 21-12-2012  The justice system rightly takes domestic violence by men very seriously but apparently not so seriously when the violence is by a woman 

Wife of paralysed motorbike stunt rider Eddie Kidd charged with repeatedly beating him

20/12/2012 06:55
Daily Mail 20-12-2012

We Are The Battered Husbands

24/11/2012 07:14
Daily Express 24-11-2012

Wife jailed for nine years after stabbing fourth husband to death with pair of scissors because he refused to tidy home

09/11/2012 09:59
Daily Mail 09-11-2012

X Factor hopeful whose band were booted off show after horrendous glass attack on ex-boyfriend faces five years in jail

07/11/2012 21:08
Daily Mail 07-11-2012 Another example of domestic violence that doesn't conform to stereotypes - and isn't reported as domestic violence 

Wife, 49, 'murdered her fourth husband with dress-making scissors because he refused to help tidy their cottage'

29/10/2012 16:44
Daily Mail 29-10-2012

New Men's Refuge in Home Counties area

24/10/2012 19:34
Alan of BESBWA is very pleased to announce that "we are now able to offer supported accommodation for men fleeing domestic abuse, either with their children or on their own. We can accommodate single males, or a dad and one child or a dad and three children. If you need help and your safety is at...

Marco Pierre White's wife admits smashing up his Range Rover and scrawling graffiti in her BLOOD on the walls of his London home

05/10/2012 09:55
Daily Mail 05-10-2012 Has the Daily Mail failed to report this as domestic violence or have the police and courts also failed to identify it?  Sadly this omission adds to the impression that domestic abuse is something that only men do. 

He took her back! Woman who bit off boyfriend's testicles in court for breaching order after they rekindled their romance

30/09/2012 19:48
Daily Mail 30-09-2012
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