'Brian' was arrested on suspicion of stabbing his partner in the neck.

Alan explains what an Independent Domestic Violence Advocate is and how he helped 'Brian' who had experienced domestic violence for three years.

 Click here  for the article and details of how to contact Alan.

 

"Fists and Chips"

a short radio drama by Keith Large starring Jeff Stewart and Carrie Hill

Click below to hear a short radio drama (11 minutes) that challenges stereotypes and highlights domestic violence against both men and women. It stars Jeff Stewart (PC Reg Hollis from The Bill) and Carrie Hill.  Our congratulations and thanks to Keith, Jeff and Carrie for this thought provoking drama.

Domestic violence against men

Domestic violence against men has been around for centuries but has largely been a hidden issue.  Call it domestic violence or call it domestic abuse - it isn't just women who are victims, there are abused men too.  Male victims of domestic violence are increasingly speaking out and looking for support but there are few support services for them, bias against them and little understanding of the issues they face.

The news section of this site has several examples of violent women and their male victims of domestic violence because these are dramatic stories that hit the news.  But emotional and psychological abuse are less obvious and don't make such good headlines unless they are cruel false allegations such as in The Daily Mail on 19 December 2011.

Abusive women are often able to use the bias of the Family Courts in favour of women to inflict emotional and financial abuse against men.  Mothers are often able to restrict contact and to alienate their children against their fathers.

UK Government statistics show that one in six men will be victims of domestic violence at some stage of their life. There are plenty of reasons to believe that the real numbers of men experiencing domestic violence are much higher. Why then are there so few resources available to male victims? Why is violence and abuse by women against their male partners minimised, excused and even blamed on men? This website sets out to answer these questions and to provide a resource for male victims and their friends and supporters.

Male victims of domestic abuse are the forgotten victims.

Domestic Violence as Bullying

Lets not beat about the bush.  In plain language domestic violence is bullying and both men and women can be bullies.  Bullying can be defined as a 'systematic abuse of power'.  Men tend to use more physical aggression and women tend to use more relational aggression.  Both can have a devastating effect on their victim.

DARVO

Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender

DAVRO is an acronym used by Dr Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD of the University of Oregon to describe the steps in victim blaming by offenders.  Women can be particulary adept at this and can often convincingly portray themselves as victims to the police and courts, sometimes using tears to help in the manipulation.

Read more about it on the Shrink4Men website

Why don't men report domestic violence?

Click here for the BBC One Show feature by Dominic Littlewood about domestic violence against men 

Visitors notice

DVmen.co.uk does not provide emergency help or support.  It provides information and resources to help better understand domestic violence by women and the experiences of male victims.

In an emergency you should dial 999 or contact your local Police Domestic Violence Officer.

If you need help or support for yourself or for a friend or relative consider contacting one of the helplines listed on this page.

New on website


Link to Keith's Blog - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse www.keithsstory.co.uk/

       

News

Jealous woman who told lover to close his eyes 'for an early Christmas present' before battering him with a rolling pin escapes jail

25/09/2012 21:03
Daily Mail 25-09-2012  

New guidelines issued on domestic abuse

19/09/2012 09:08
BBC News 19-09-2012

Teenage victims of domestic violence targeted as definition is extended

19/09/2012 09:05
The Guardian 19-09-2012

Controlling partners 'to be prosecuted for domestic abuse'

18/09/2012 12:34
The Telegraph 18-09-2012  Today's DVmen.co.uk award for gender bias in the field of domestic abuse goes to this article that start s 'Men who emotionally abuse their partners by controlling their finances, preventing them from seeing friends or verbally abusing them could soon...

Sir Roger Moore: James Bond actor 'beaten up by first two wives'

12/09/2012 21:13
Telegraph 12-09-2012

Domestic violence pilot scheme gives women 'right to know'

06/09/2012 16:37
Telegraph 06-09-2012  This article omits to mention that men also have the 'right to know'

Queen's composer moves to evict gay lover over 'domestic abuse' and launches court fight over remote Orkney home

02/09/2012 16:35
Daily Mail 02-09-2012

Husband who nearly died in knife attack by drunken wife begs her to return

28/08/2012 16:30
Daily Mail 28-08-2012

Father stabbed by his girlfriend with kitchen knife after throwing away her diet pills to stop her 'addiction'

10/08/2012 18:03
Daily Mail 09-08-2012 This article illustrates how the first reaction of a woman using domestic violence can be to falsely claim that they are the one who was attacked.  Happily in this case the allegations did not hold weight. Men who experience domestic violence always need...

Why don’t we take domestic abuse against men seriously?

07/08/2012 09:30
The Independent 07-08-2012 A very well informed article. 

Witnessing domestic violence can increase odds of children developing depression and addiction later in life

01/08/2012 12:58
Time 01-08-2012 Article on reseach developments into the link between childhood trauma (including witnessing domestic violence) and the chances of developing depression or addiction later in life.
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